If we are in control of our lives God is not. In order to live that good life Jesus came to give us (John 10:10), we have to submit to His plan.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. AMPC
—God has a plan but His plan does not come into action as long as we are conducting our plan.
His plan is a loss of ours. What do I mean? I mean faith in Him is not faith in ourselves. If you plan your life, you block God from that good plan He has for you. In so doing —when things go wrong, you will run to God and at that time —in your searching for Him, He will show you He had a better plan.
Now you will see that your efforts just prolonged His plan. He won't override your plan with His. Yes you can get on His plan now, you can start again, but think of all the time you wasted doing it your way.
Another scenario—what if you decided to divorce your unsaved spouse? What if God had a plan for your spouse's salvation that involved you? How will that make you feel when you find out you missed it? When things don't turn out for you, you will go to God. When you go to God He will show you the better plan He had, and you will regret your plan.
We do things against His law of love because we don't see His plan, we don't take the time to seek Him before we act. Now it may be too late, but of course you can repent and start again. Now is the time of grace, and God will forgive you and even have another plan of action for you to take —recourse.
God is asking that we be faithful where we are, and let Him do —what needs changing at the proper time.
Find out the plan and cooperate with Him in that plan, then see —the more than you can ask or think come into place!
Ephesians 3:20 Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]— AMPC
In summation—regard God, don't say I am not doing that, or I am doing this! In doing so you block God out. Then when we need Him again, we go to Him and find we missed it! He had a better plan then you did —you missed it and now you have to backtrack and get on the original plan —His.
Yes we can start over again, but starting over takes time.
God is asking that we just stay on course. That we look to Him and be patient in the plan He has.
His return is soon and as we think we are waiting —He is. He is waiting for you to find out the plan and then be faithful in it. Being faithful in little, as in caring about what God cares about, will bring you to having those — your dreams fulfilled.
God loves that person you may think is in your way and He will use you to make their life good. So stay there, help Him—love for Him!
Whatever He can trust you with now —will determine what He can trust you with next. Can He trust you with what you have? Are you a good steward of what belongs to Him? If not then how can He trust you with more — like with that dream He gave you, that one He planted in your heart?
Can He trust you to take care of your children, your home, your family,? Do you care, or does He have to send someone else to do your work?
Did you know doing His work is the most rewarding thing of all? You may be asking for a new spouse, but He is asking you to serve the one you have for His purpose. You don't know His plan unless you ask. You won't know the joy unless you agree.
You may be asking to move but He has a plan for lost souls where you are. You may be asking to get out of your calling, but He has a plan for your calling to prosper you and bring you before great men.
You may be wanting a good paying job, but He wants to get the gods out of your life so you can live in heaven —with Him when you leave here.
You may be asking for a third job so you can get a new car, but He may be wanting to teach you how to live your talent out and get that car by your gift making room for you.
You may want a baby, but He may want you to have taken care of another child's needs.
God has a plan, but in order that we may live in the best life ever we have to submit to Him. In order to see we have to refocus our plan — to His.
His plan is good and is love —it involves saved souls. We have to stop thinking of ourselves and think of Him and the importance of life! Every soul saved is the desire of God, and He needs your help!
Think of the reality of —a burning hot hell! Who do you want to save from that? Yes, I thought so, so then follow the plan God has for you. Well, you may say I am not about saving souls, well then you better get about it! If you don't, you don't love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind!
If you don't care about what He cares about? Then? You do the math!